Paris Jackson: Love, Loss, & Listening to Your Intuition
with Paris Jackson
12 Aug 20265 min read1h 15m
TL;DR
Paris Jackson opens up to Alex Cooper about growing up as Michael Jackson's daughter at Neverland, getting sober in 2020 after blackout drinking scared her into seeking help, and the mindset shift that changed everything: writing her life story twice — once as a victim, once zoomed out — and choosing to see her hardships as 'energetic initiations' rather than tragedies. Now in the happiest year of her life at 28, she credits ditching expectations and finding purpose in being of service to others.
Key Moments
Paris Jackson
“It was made very clear that um all of the attractions there were not for us that did not belong to us. That was for you know underprivileged children and children that were terminally ill that couldn't go to like Disneyland.”
Paris correcting the popular assumption that she grew up running freely around Neverland's amusement park and zoo
“I wrote out just a short two-page life story uh through the eyes of the victim. And then I sat with it and I went through and I wrote another two pages. Uh same stories but not through the eyes of the victim.”
Paris describing a therapeutic exercise she did last year to shift her perspective on her hardships, including her father's death
“I will turn Pilates into an addiction. I will turn rock climbing into an addiction. Like I am just constantly historically reached outside of myself to find things to change or manage how I'm feeling and thinking.”
Paris explaining the nature of her addictive personality, distinguishing herself from people who can use substances casually
“I think I was maybe around like seven, eight, nine when I started to just like kind of reach for things outside of myself. Whether it was a person or food or, you know, just survival skills, I would say like self harm, for example, is probably not a living skill. It's a survival skill.”
Paris tracing the roots of her addictive and self-harmful behaviors back to early childhood, well before drugs and alcohol entered the picture
Paris Jackson is the daughter of the late Michael Jackson and has spent her entire life navigating extraordinary public scrutiny. Now 28, she is a musician with a new album releasing August 21st, and has been open about her journey through addiction, recovery, and self-discovery. She got sober in the first week of 2020 and is currently in her seventh year of recovery.
Takeaways
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Rewrite your story twice to escape victimhood Paris did a structured exercise where she wrote her life story twice: once from the victim's perspective, once from a zoomed-out lens looking for 'points of initiation.' She found it easier to write the zoomed-out version, suggesting that reframing hardship as purposeful is a learnable skill, not just a platitude. The exercise concretely changed how she relates to losing her father at 11.
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Addictive personalities replace, not just use Paris distinguishes between people who can casually use substances after serious addiction and people like herself who will turn any behavior — Pilates, rock climbing, relationships — into a consuming obsession. Her six-year recovery framework centers on finding 'right relationship' with things rather than abstinence from everything. This framing of addiction as a personality trait rather than a substance problem is more actionable for people in similar patterns.
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No expectations creates space for organic connection When Paris met her biological mother for the first time at 15, she walked in without expectations — which she now credits for why the relationship could develop naturally. She frames expectations as the primary source of resentment and disappointment in relationships, not the other circumstances around them. This was not a therapy-taught insight but something she arrived at independently as a teenager.
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Being of service is what makes recovery sustainable Paris describes her recovery sustaining force as the ability to use her experiences — public scrutiny, addiction, loss — to help younger people in similar situations, without telling them what to do. She frames this not as altruism but as something that 'feeds into giving me life,' making service a selfish-in-a-good-way strategy for staying well. This is a concrete, repeatable structure that differs from willpower-based approaches.
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Neverland was not Paris's playground — it was charity Contrary to public assumption, Paris and her brothers were not free to use Neverland's rides and zoo at will. Michael Jackson made explicitly clear the attractions were for underprivileged and terminally ill children, and the Jackson kids earned weekend access through chores and schoolwork. This discipline continued regardless of where they lived, from hotel-hopping in Vegas to Virginia.
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Daily horoscopes are too vague to be useful — full charts aren't Paris argues that daily horoscopes are intentionally generic because they only consider your sun sign, ignoring houses, rising, moon, and planetary degrees. She contrasts this with full birth chart readings, which she calls 'spooky accurate' once all placements are considered. Her own double Leo (sun and rising) she says explains the 'what you see is what you get' quality people notice about her.